Understanding the impact of purity culture on shame, sexuality, and your relationship with God There can be a quiet tension when it comes to desire. A part of you that feels something naturally and another part that immediately becomes watchful. Careful. Unsure what to do with what’s been stirred. Not because desire itself is the…
Understanding the difference between shame and conviction in your relationship with God In my work as a therapist, I’m often sitting with women who are carrying a strong sense of inner pressure. They feel convicted.They feel like God is prompting them.They feel like they need to change something. But as we begin to gently explore…
Many women who come to therapy care deeply about their relationship with God. They want their faith to feel real, grounding, and life-giving. They long for a sense of connection that brings peace — something they can rest in, not strive for. And yet, for some, their experience of God feels more complicated than they…
Many women who come to therapy care deeply about their faith. They want to follow God faithfully. They want their lives to reflect love, integrity, and compassion. Faith is not something superficial for them — it matters deeply. And yet, somewhere along the way, their relationship with God has begun to feel heavy. For some…
From the outside, your life might look steady. You’re responsible. Thoughtful. Faithful. The kind of person others rely on. You show up for your commitments, your relationships, your church. People may even describe you as strong. But inside, something feels different. There’s a quiet exhaustion that never quite goes away. A constant sense of striving….
For many women, the fear isn’t just about healing.It’s about what healing might cost, especially when faith is involved. When you think about healing shame and faith, you might lie awake at night wondering: Shame has a way of making these thoughts feel responsible, even faithful. It wraps itself in spiritual language and convinces you…
Living with long-term shame can make it feel as though it’s part of who you are. Not just something you experience from time to time, but something that shapes how you see yourself, how you relate to others, and what you believe you deserve. It can feel like a shadow that’s always been there.Quiet. Familiar….
Many people worry that their story is “too much.”Too heavy, too complicated, too messy. The fear that your story might be “too much” is often a sign of shame at work. Shame has a way of convincing us that our experiences are too heavy, too messy, or too complicated for anyone else to hold. It…
Many Christian women carry body shame, not because something is wrong with them, but because of messages absorbed slowly over time in faith spaces. For most women, this didn’t begin with a single moment.It built quietly — through comments, rules, looks, and unspoken expectations. Body shame can affect mental and emotional wellbeing over time, as…
Looking for a therapist can feel overwhelming. Wanting someone who also shares your faith can make the search feel even more complicated. You might find yourself wondering: What should I be looking for? How do I know if someone is the right fit for me? Here are a few simple things to keep in mind…